i thought this was going to be an easy one to write, but then I started to the about it! I was going to say ‘I’m lucky that no one has ever pressured me about my weight/size’ however, I’m not sure that it is a good thing?
Maybe, if comments had been passed, I would have done something sooner, or maybe I would have felt too much pressure and it would have been a vicious cycle – as I see elsewhere.
Any who, there is no point wondering what would have happened, so I’m going to do what I said I was going to do, and I’m going to focus on what has happened!!!
I was incredibly blessed with my patents who never pressured me or my brother to do anything, we were encouraged to follow our passions, and we were loved for doing whatever we did, and being exactly who we were. I’ve never been particularly worried about what others thought of me. So much so that when I was at school virtually all of my group of fiends were vegetarians, my thinking was I liked meat – therefore I was going to eat it!!!
I guess the point I’m trying to make is that, there have been times when I have been encouraged to lose weight, but never did I feel any pressure. As I have mentioned in previous posts I have tried to lose weight before but I don’t think I ever really wanted to, therefore it was never going to work.
I’m not entirely sure what happened at the beginning of this year, but something mad me think, YUP I want to lose weight! Actually, it may have had something to do with coming off one of my medications which I had been on since I was 11, I was under the impression it was a medication that caused you to put on weight, although I have since found out that it affects the metabolism! Whatever the cause, I think I always had an excuse to be crazily obese – which is ridiculous – but was still a sub conscious belief.
So… I made the decision, started to count my calories, and the rest is history.
One key thing was that I barely told anyone that I was doing this at all. I told a very close friend, and my husband and THAT WAS IT! I figured if I told more people I would feel the pressure and with some people it may turn into competition. This really helped me, as I really was just doing it for myself. I wasn’t making a point of eating different things, or not eating things, I was just getting on with it! Obviously… Once the weight started to come off people noticed and quite often asked if I had lost weight (you know how people do in that kind of embarrassed way as they weren’t sure if they should notice or comment). But by that point I had got into my routine, and the hard stuff had been done without pressure.
The two people I told were so supportive, they too didn’t pressure but just congratulated me and encouraged me.
What I’ve found is that losing weight/getting healthy is never going to happen unless you are doing it for you, not to impress, not to fit in, not to be accepted, not because you have been told to, but because it is your own decision and choice.